Parents and Kids Disagree About Impact of Divorce

b_250_0_16777215_00_images_obgrabber_2014-01_2c19f84f10.jpgwavebreakmedia/Thinkstock (NEW YORK) -- Parents don't understand the full impact a broken marriage has on kids, a survey of 1,000 parents and 100 children in the United Kingdom about the effects of divorce suggests. Conducted by the parenting website Netmums, the survey revealed that nearly four in ten youngsters disguise their true feelings about the split.  Just 10 percent of parents thought their children were hiding their feelings.

Perhaps even more shocking is that 20 percent of children from broken homes say they turn to alcohol or drugs to deal with the situation while under 1 percent of parents were aware that this was happening.

Another bombshell: a third of kids' under 18 claim they are "devastated" by the end of their parents' marriage and 13 percent actually blame themselves for the split, despite assurances from their parents that they are not responsible.

The survey also found that while just 10 percent of parents admitted they fought in front of the kids, more than three in ten children surveyed said they witnessed fights between their mothers and fathers.

The effects of divorce on youngsters are also dangerous, the survey found, with 1 percent of kids admitting to self-harm and 6 percent saying they've considered suicide.

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